I sat across from my friend, her face goes pale and she tells me "I don't know if I'll ever be ready for babies." I nodded slowly, because I knew what she was really saying. It's a scary thing to admit, and I honestly am always proud when someone can say it. They don't want to devote their time to someone else for the next 20 years when they, themselves, have not gotten the time and attention they need to nurture and mature themselves yet.
Having a baby is a beginning to a bright new chapter, filled with late nights, early mornings, long hours, soaring highs and crashing lows. Bringing children into this world starts deliriously slow and suddenly, before you know it, they are off to college and you can't believe what just happened. And in those years, you have probably either devoted your life to them or completely messed them up as a person. And either way, it's not guaranteed that they are going to know how to be safe and trust people not to hurt them, let alone trust themselves not to hurt others.
So, why don't we do something about it before your baby is conceived? What if there was a way to ensure that you were going to be able to maintain your "you-ness" while growing a human and encouraging them to be their best "them-ness" possible, all while model safe and stable relationships that will help them experience closeness in the world when they leave the cocoon of your home?
This is the premise for Come Connected - Bring Harmony Home's newest program which helps people become better partners BEFORE becoming parents. It starts with Owning It, a 5-week cohort that shines light on the parts of us that gets ignited when in close relationships. These are the most vulnerable and raw parts of our core being that we tend to hide from ourselves and others because of how tender they are. The parts that say you're not worthy or there's not enough. The part of you that says the things out of anger that you later come to regret. With 5 weekly live events, a membership portal and a workbook with prompts to access the most sacred parts of our beings, you will get the opportunity to come face to face with the whole you, and start to integrate them in a safe and lovingly held container.
Because until you have really looked at your triggers, done the deep work with your less desirable emotions (oh hello, anger) AND taken responsibility for the parts of you that react intensely before even knowing why, your future child will magnify these parts of you to the point that you will no longer recognize yourself anymore. Start with Come Connected today so that you can Bring Harmony Home tomorrow.